No matter how strong we pretend to be, we all have some fears in our life. Some people are afraid of heights (acrophobia), others are afraid of insects (entomophobia). Some of us are afraid of Justin Bieber’s fans and some of us are afraid of being the audience in Amir Liaquit’s show (this fear is known as aam-khayega-aam phobia). Some of us have isolophobia & some of us have anthropophobia. Some of the fears are controllable, others are difficult to control. Everything is a ‘fear’ if it makes one feel appalling, footling or weak. Of all the fears that I have, losing people I love has to be my greatest fear. My family, friends, relatives, everyone in my life occupy a special place in my heart. Yes, here I am confessing my biggest fear… that is losing my loved ones.
This fear, at times, doesn’t let me sleep. My little world which is made up of my family and my true friends is beautiful, Masha’Allah. I can’t imagine my world getting damaged. I don’t know if this is my fear or weakness or um, I don’t know.
Fear surrounds us in different forms. We all have different fears but the purpose of all the fears is same: To make us feel appalling, terrible and small.
Having said this all, we don’t need to feed our fears. Even though this is my greatest fear but I believe, that even if people leave; our connection with them doesn’t end.
“If you’re irritated by every rub, how will you become polished?” -Rumi
There is something that eliminates fear and that is hope, it tells us that we can reunite in the next world with those people who left us, and those people who will leave us. A world that will be better than this temporary wicked world.
Being scared all the time gives you nothing but wrinkles..
So, spend time with your family and true friends because it is more important and valuable than your Facebook display, ranting tweet and annoying selfie. Because life is hard (if lived with regrets). So…
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I have to say, as disturbing as aam khayega phobia seems, yours is legit. And its quite natural to feel that way.
Appreciation, quality time and never ending gratitude are crucial. 🙂
Think everyone has that fear.. And there is no getting over it as such, only thing you can do is cherish and make most of the moments you have with your loved ones and then when they’re gone remember them through those moments.. But the pain of their loss as such sticks with you till the end.
My greatest fear is that I can’t see my family suffering because of me and the idea just terrifies me. Amir liaqat thing was funny 😛 Love your blog.
I can understand & thank you.
good one 👍
you mentioned your fear of losing a loved one, I want to ask you a question. If that loved one turn out to be fake and you feel betrayed, will you still fear losing him/her? Or would you want that person to be gone from your life?
How can they turn out to be fake?
I know all my loved ones very well. But, I have been betrayed by two, three very close friends of mine. Er, I think, once you’re betrayed, your connection with that person breaks. The fear doesn’t exist then. Also, there is nothing in this world that can make your sight sharper than betrayal.
They can like being pretend to be the person they actually aren’t, because I believe you fall in love with a person’s personality and what if they aren’t what they pretend to be? There was this really close friend who would act like all dumb and stupid and trying to act cute when they actually weren’t, such people are fake, aren’t they?
and yes betrayal does that, you are more aware of how and with whom you interact with!
True. I agree. People can betray you anytime. We all make specific images of people in our minds by looking at their personality. Just so you know, I don’t fall for people’s faces, I like witty, honest, passionate and modest people. I can easily know who is being fake and who is being original. My judgment can be wrong at times but most of the times, it is right.
sounds legit! It still escapes my understanding why would anyone do that! And in your case you mentioned too close friends posing betrayal, should they be given another chance if they apologize and repent or they be isolated from your company? What did you end up doing in such a case?